Q&A | Why Do Bad Things Happen to Good People?
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The question on today’s podcast is one I have heard a lot and one I’ve also asked myself if I’m being honest.
It’s normal and natural to ask ourselves questions like this, and it doesn’t mean that you mean any ill will towards others. It also doesn’t mean other people are “bad”; bad things should happen to them instead.
I see this question as an expression of trying to make sense of tragedy or challenges. When looking at outside circumstances, when you see other people living their lives in such a way that puts them in danger or exhibits risky behavior, and nothing ever seems to happen to them, it’s normal to feel angry and even self-pity.
As you will hear in this week’s episode, I don’t have all the answers. However, I know and understand grief and the impact it has on our psyche and lives. This is just one of those questions that are difficult to answer.
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How Grief Manifests In Our Lives
It got me thinking about a question that I’ve heard quite often question I’ve pondered myself. And it kind of relates to snowflakes in that there are no two snowflakes that are alike. And there are no two grieving experiences that are like. It can be similar in ways in how we respond.
We worry about people. We love people. And so we have grief for other people too. Because we love them and care about them. This brings me to the question, why do bad things happen to good people? I’m not going to answer that question. Because I don’t know why.
What if we asked ourselves? Why not me? Or why not them? And I think when bad things happen? It is part of a greater lesson.
I think we all go through the hard knocks of life in our own way. Some more than others. Why is that? I don’t know. But in reflecting on my own path personal experiences and what I’ve been through. And felt like I was destined for a life of suffering from a very young age. I didn’t have a lot of hope. And perhaps those negative experiences were in essence for me to come closer to the reality of my detachment, to my own feelings, and my inability to deeply connect with those closest to me.
Because I think what happens when you’re going through really difficult or challenging experiences in your life? That’s what happens; it brings you closer, closer to yourself, to your own spirit, and soul, it might lead you down a path of spirituality you’ve never touched before. It may draw you closer to your spouse, or to your children. It may cause you to live your life more fully.
Why Do Bad Things Happen to Good People?
Why not? It’s an invitation that doesn’t make you feel better. It doesn’t make the emotions any easier to handle, deal with or navigate or work through any of those adjectives. It can really suck. It can drain your energy. When bad things happen. It can turn your world upside down. But perhaps the greater plan is yet to be seen. And so consider why not me? Why not them? And when those times happen, draw closer to those who want to love and support you. Make self-care your priority and know that you’re not alone.
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